Wednesday, July 11, 2007
Get over it!
Apparently my time limit for remembering that I had a preemie has ended. Over the past few weeks/months I've been hearing an awful lot of "get over it" said with various degrees of niceness. Last night at my women's Bible Study one of the ladies who is very pregnant had gotten a ride with another class member because she was having contractions every 3-4 minutes (for the last week) and her doctor didn't want her driving. One of the non-mommy members asked if all pregnant women stopped driving at a certain point in their pregnancy and everyone started talking about their past pregnancy experiences. I learned early on that my comments weren't really welcome so I usually keep my mouth shut, but Candi (the pregnant one) specifically asked me if I had to stop driving when I was on bedrest. Before I could answer another mom said "Don't get her started" and I was left to sit in silence once again. I don't think that I harp on my pregnancy & birth experience, although perhaps I'm wrong about this. If anything I tend to keep quiet because my comments just don't fit. I never went into labor or experienced even one contraction. I didn't make it to my childbirth classes, and I never breastfed Noah (although I made a valient effort at pumping). Most of my friends are at the very least tolerent of my different experience, but it seems there are a few who have started a quest to get me to forget it ever happened. I'm not really sure what they hope to accomplish with this, but I find it very hurtful. I don't have an awful lot of true memories from that time in my life (mostly I know what my husband has told me) and so I cling to the few memories that I have. Someday Noah's going to want to know why his baby pictures are so different then everyone else's and it's not going to do anyone any good if I pretend I don't notice the tubes & wires.